Introduction
Since the incident* with Mrs. Robertazzi the kids up the block heard about how I answered her back. I had attracted their attention. But instead of it getting their admiration, they looked at me as a silly, naïve kid. They said things that caused me to see what a mess I had made by being naughty. Now I had a big problem.
That was the conclusion drawn by the kids up the block after I had to tell them my parents limited my activities to my side of the street and the length of the row houses. That was my punishment for being rude and disrespectful to Mrs. Robertazzi. I was to go no further. I had no new charms to show off from the gumball machines either. Without my allowance I couldn’t buy them.
One morning Mom opened the door to get the mail. Joanne was sitting on the stoop waiting for me. She had not seen me sitting in the sunporch, waving to her from the windows that offered a view of the block going towards 13th Avenue. From there I could see not only Joanne’s house but the Allen’s house next door. Their nieces Eileen and Debbie came to live with them. Debbie was about my age and Mommy approved of her as a playmate. But because I’d withdrawn to my room we hadn’t gotten acquainted yet.
I left my room and stood at the top of the stairs. I could hear Mommy talking with Joanne. It turned out she was also worried about going to school. But that shouldn’t stop me from coming out to play, my friend added.
When the door closed I came downstairs and talked to Mommy first. In the evening I talked to Daddy. I didn’t want to spend another night worrying like this.
*Please see posting 88c-EmilyAnn’s Memoir-A Stitch in time-Mischief, 1958.
Relationship Notes
Emily Leatrice was my Mom. She did not socialize or become too familiar with most of the housewives on the block. Like her father Sam, Emily had a strong belief that the less everyone knew about your business, the stronger the immediate family was. She disliked gossip and idleness. She was not a fussy housekeeper the way many of the Italian-American housewives on our block were. Our home was wel-lived in. It was a place where I could play in any room. Unlike many of the children on the block, I was not told to take my friends down to play in the basement. We watched TV or played with our toys in the living room. My friends Mary Joan and Joanne also let me play in their homes or gardens.
Frank Jesse was my Dad. He rejected what he called the “stuperstitions” (stupid superstitions) of the Italian-Sicilian American community he grew up in. Since his mother, Blanche, was the daughter of immigrant Orthodox Jews from Galicia he grew up in a home that did not have the usual religious art like a painting of The Last Supper and a cross in every bedroom the way many homes in the neighborhood did. His father’s family were more focused on things of this world, especially business and social status. Dad believed that one had to overcome negative circumstances through discipline, focus and vision for the future. One’s character and behavior were determined by sincerity. He formed a conclusion about a person based more on their actions, especially patterns of behavior that are consistently repeated.
Mary Joan lived two doors up from our house in the row. She lived with her parents in the basement apartment of her maternal grandparent’s house. My Mom and Dad also befriended Mary Joan’s grandparents since they were good neighbors and stayed apart from the gossip and taking sides on matters involving other families on the block.
Joanne lived in a large, two family detached house two doors down from our house. Her grandparents owned the house and were very particular about who came to visit Joanne and Steven. The garden was well-kept. To the side was a trellis covered with roses under which Joanne and I sat on summer afternoons. The house, too, was well kept.
Joanne’s mother was a divorcee who worked full-time. She was a very attractive woman who reminded me of Loretta Young, a popular movie star who successfully transitioned to TV. Joanne, Steven and their mother lived upstairs.
Lou and Sadie lived next door to us in a very large, three-story house with an attic. Dad believed that at one time it had been a farm house, it was that big. Lou and Sadie had a large family and entertained their sons, daughter-in-laws and grandchildren every Sunday during the summer months. They frequently had picnic style lunches in their backyard followed by a game of baseball. In the early evenings the family went inside where Sadie sang popular music of the 1920s to 1930s while someone played the piano.
Dad was sometimes invited to their early evening gatherings around the piano. Since Dad had an extensive knowledge of music from the 1920s onward, he and the Sadie always had enjoyable discussions.
Debbie and Eileen were Sadie’s nieces. Their mother passed away a short time before they came to live with their Aunt Sadie and Uncle Lou. Eileen was about 12 years older than Debbie. Eileen was very modest and Mom took to her and Debbie right away. Mom liked that Eileen always had something pleasant to say and dressed in an understated manner. Debbie was easygoing and friendly. She was just as happy playing with dolls as she was jumping rope. It wasn’t necessary to bring out many toys to play with her.
The kids up the block come back in my memories more as a group entity than as specific individuals, except for one boy. Overall they were from families my parents did not socialize with nor become overly familiar with. They stayed up the block most of the time but when they did come down the block they revealed they knew everything going on with the families who lived in the row houses. Mom told me this was because of idle chatter and gossip.
My parents never expressed any strong positive or negative opinions about the parents of the children from up the block. They did mention who owned a business and who was successful but that was it. Without going into any explanations I was told not to go up the block or play with the children from the families who lived there.
The row houses formed the world of my childhood. Although there were children my age across the street, until the age of 6 I was only permitted to move up or down the block along the length of six of the seven row houses where we lived. The seventh house marked the beginning of the territory known as “up the block”. I was not to go there but if I saw any of the children or their parents who lived there and they greeted me I was to be respectful and return the greeting. But nothing else.
Mrs. Elettra Robertazzi was a widow who lived at the end of our row. Her house was located right near the entrance to the community driveway. She was constantly taunted by the children from up the block. Whether it was about her thick eyeglasses, her raspy voice, her slim figure, her quick-witted responses in English, her agility—really anything at all—the kids up the block had a way of turning it into a negative attribute. In this posting we’ll see how this played out in my life.
Mrs. Robertazzi was not popular with the kids up the block because she watched over her property diligently. She was not afraid to confront parents when children sat on her stoop or picked the petunias from her carefully tended garden. She also verbally reprimanded children when they spoke rudely to her or to other children.
Family Story: The Mal Occhio
Mrs. Robertazzi kept watching me in the days after Mom and Dad disciplined me after I taunted her by running and screaming at the front and back of her house. This caused her to run along with me and rush to open the front door of her house and then the back door of her house. She came out yelling “You faccia brutta!* Get outta my property! Shut up!” Since I had behaved like the other children who taunted her, I received the predictable response. Before this I had never behaved like this. Once she saw it was me she stopped yelling and asked me why I was imitating the other children on the block.
Even though I had apologized, Dad suspended my allowance for two weeks. I still had to do my chores as Mommy assigned them but I’d not receive any allowance. In addition to dusting my toybox and toys, I now learned how to fold the kitchen towels and dish cloths with Mom after she took the clean, dry clothes off the line.
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