This posting is part 2 of “The Lifestyle of one real 1950s housewife” based on memories and family stories my late Mom and Grandmothers shared with me when I was growing up.
Introduction
In mid-1953 Emily and Frank moved from a cozy, garden apartment located near Shore Road in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn to a small 6 room house in Dyker Heights. After Emily gave birth to EmilyAnn in November of 1953 life took some time to resume any regularity. Emily took care of the night feedings so that Frank could get to work during the week. Friday and Saturday nights Frank often took care of the feeding and diaper changing during the nights.
Both Frank and Emily decided that the first thing they had to take care of was their health. The new house did not heat up evenly when the oil burner went on after the thermostat was raised. The living room and the master bedroom at the front of the house chilled very quickly once the heat subsided. The middle bedroom was very comfortable, as was the kitchen. The bedroom at the end of the hall, which became EmilyAnn’s after her sibling was born, was damp. The oil burner was located in the basement at the back of the house.
Being cold and tired did not motivate Frank and Emily to do that much in the house except for what Blanche, Frank’s mother, called “top cleaning”. This meant the furniture got dusted, sheets got changed and the floor got a perfunctory cleaning with a dust mop. Blanche believed that the house needed a much more thorough cleaning after EmilyAnn came home.
Emily and Frank preferred to focus on the rooms they thought were most important to keep clean and clutter free: the bath, the kitchen, their bedroom and EmilyAnn’s room. They were not ready to get involved with purchasing more furniture just yet nor out to entertain. In this sense they were once again outside the mainstream and the neighbors on the block who all had well-furnished homes complete with very pretty window treatments. Frank and Emily put up venetian blinds and had very simple drapes that were utilitarian rather than decorative.
Frank’s mother Blanche wasn’t satisfied that a new baby had to live in a house that did not have deep cleaning done on a regular basis. During a visit on a weekday, Blanche noticed how pale Emily looked. She advised her on how to organize a schedule to take care of the entire day’s housekeeping. Emily listened and then gave her reply. “This schedule sounds like something I’ll try in a year or two. Right now, I need help, badly.”
Blanche did not back down. She promised Emily to get her just the right kind of help she needed to have not only a clean house but a beautiful one, too.
Relationship Notes
Emily Leatrice Serrapede married Frank Jesse Terry* in May 1950. Prior to resigning from her full-time job around June of 1953 Emily worked as a legal secretary. After the birth of EmilyAnn she had not only the adjustment to make of being a new parent, she also had to acclimate herself to owning a 6-room house after living in apartments all her life and for the first three years of her marriage. There were some days the new house seemed a burden and other days a place to grow in. In the early months of 1954 Emily was very challenged to pull herself and her thoughts together. She found it an effort to get organized so that three meals were prepared every day, the laundry done, the baby cared for and somewhere in between catch a cat nap if possible!
Josie Muro Serrapede was Emily’s mother. After hearing about Emily’s “Soup and Sandwich” menu three times a week, she decided to step in and help her daughter build up her strength and have nutritious food every Sunday and at the start of the week. In 1953 Josie and her husband Sam were raising their 11-year-old son, Junior (a/k/a Sammy). Since Josie and Sam were working full-time jobs the help they extended to Emily and Frank was much simpler and less involved than that offered by Blanche and Al, Emily’s in-laws.
Blanche Terry* was the daughter of Orthodox Jews from Galicia who settled in New York in the early 20th Century. In the late 1920s, Blanche’s parents bought a house in Midwood, Brooklyn, New York that they ran as a boarding house for over 10 years. Blanche took whatever she learned from living in that setting and applied the organization of her own household like a small business. She kept books of expenses and maintained files for all her receipts and bills. Blanche was also in charge of the complete maintenance of the two-family house in which she, Al and their children lived. Al was involved in finding repair people, painters, and handymen but it was Blanche who researched their reputations and interviewed them before she and Al made their choice. Any help that Emily accepted from Blanche and Al involved discussion, consideration and agreement. It was a fair process but since Emily was in a slump after giving birth, she sometimes was impatient with this decision making process. Later she came to dislike herself for letting this process move away from her and into the decision making powers of her in-laws.
*Note about Surname: Terry was the Anglicized version of Frank’s surname. He and his father used the name professionally. We welcome contact with the descendants of any business associates who knew Al Terry when he worked at Fleming-Joffe or at his own importing company, Al Terry & Son.
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