Series Note
This posting is Part 9 of “The Lifestyle of one real 1950s housewife” series based on memories and family stories EmilyAnn’s late Mom, Aunties and Grandmothers shared with her as she was growing up.
Introduction
When the weather did not permit a brisk walk into the heart of Dyker Heights where the mini-mansions were located, Emily spent the time engaging with EmilyAnn in different ways. The walks were becoming what Emily called one of the highlights of each day. She coined her own meaning for the word “highlight” by separating it into the two words high and light. When EmilyAnn was stressed out due to being in a Special Enriched Program during Junior High School, Emily explained the benefits of going on a long walk by using her personal meaning for highlight.
The walk, Emily said, would be of benefit if EmilyAnn emptied herself and concentrated on the exertion of walking briskly up the hills of the 80s Streets from 13th Avenue up towards 10th Avenue. She could even walk up to 86th and Fifth Avenue if the walk was on a Saturday morning. The feeling of “reaching the heights” or a “high place” came from the exhilaration that followed the physical exercise and meeting the challenge. By challenge Emily meant achieving the goal set by walking however many blocks were determined ahead of time. The feeling of “light” came as a result of focusing on all the sights one encountered while on the walk. This was especially true if one particular object was the focus such as seeing and noting the different types of trees, or the different birds and their calls, or even the different flowers in the gardens of each house. The impact of experiencing “light” came later, when resting after the walk. There was an ability to let go of whatever was so emotionally fraught before and consider the matter more clearly. Or there could be a feeling of refreshment and a desire to eat well and get some rest. Whatever had to be taken care of would be attended to and a resolution achieved. These fruits from Emily’s experiences during her walks were yet to be in a concrete form that she could articulate and expand on when EmilyAnn was still a baby. They were slowly being cultivated through maintaining, as much as possible, a routine where time was spent apart from the mundane round of chores each day. The practice also included an abstinence from all idle talk whether in person or by phone.
The regularity of this routine was of great benefit mainly to Emily at this point. She knew she had an hour of focus and relaxation ahead. When the weather was bad Emily read a book or magazine, as EmilyAnn played in the room. Often, she read parts of the magazine or book to EmilyAnn. At other times they watched TV program together or took a nap. Emily was beginning to be aware of the fact she really was her father’s daughter. How she enjoyed those naps! It would be several years, though, before she came to the full awareness that like her father Sam, she was an introvert who enjoyed socializing but was easily drained of all focus when she was unable to rest and retreat between outings, family parties and especially holiday related travel and socializing.
In the meantime, when EmilyAnn was nearing her 2nd birthday, Emily began to sense another change in her ability to anticipate events or react to sudden changes in her surroundings, especially if things were about to take a turn where issues of safety were involved.
Relationship Notes
Emily Leatrice Serrapede was 22 years old when her daughter EmilyAnn was born in 1953. Her husband Frank Jesse Terry* came from a family of successful business people who relied on entertaining and socializing as a means to expand their business-related contacts. The Serrapede family followed a modest lifestyle, most of which was quiet due to Emily’s Dad, Sam, having a penchant for making his home not only his castle but his fortress against all the ups and downs of what he called the outside world. Emily grew up knowing a very reliable and steady rhythm of life where Sundays, were the main days for short visits to the family followed by leisurely hours before getting ready on Sunday for the workweek beginning Monday.
Sam (Sabato) Serrapede, Sr. was 53 years old when his granddaughter, EmilyAnn was born. He was the husband of Josie Muro Serrapede and father of Emily Leatrice Serrapede, Gerald (passed away at 3 yrs. of age), and Junior (Sammy). Sam immigrated from Agropoli to New York in the late 1920s. His son Sammy (Sabbatino), Jr. related to EmilyAnn that in Agropoli, Sam was very unhappy living at home. He worked as a fisherman by day and often slept on the beach at night. He scrimped and saved to get the money for a one way ticked to New York.
Sam did not speak of his father Gennaro or his mother Emilia, but he did love all his brothers and sisters very much. Sam’s love of solitude and his respect for maintaining a healthy diet, routine and recognition of rest and quiet time were all habits he cultivated in Emily and later encouraged in EmilyAnn. We think that perhaps the nights when Sam slept on the beach watching the men fish at night with their lanterns shining on the waters, seeing the stars above the promenade of the Old Town of Agropoli high above the beach, and then watching the morning sun turn the waters of the Mediterranean copper, red and gold at sunrise gave him that appreciation of solitude and time apart.
Family Story: The Flash
Emily established a sense of control and privacy over her household by limiting the number of people she invited over her house. She and Frank still did not have a formal dining room that could be used for hosting a Sunday afternoon dinner. This did not bother her parents or in-laws because they thought using the dining area as a playroom for EmilyAnn was a great idea. Emily did not believe babies and small children should roam freely in a kitchen or living room because of hazards that awaited them there. A room that was sufficiently child proofed as she liked to say, was best. EmilyAnn’s playroom was quite sparse having a small rug in the center, and all electrical outlets blocked by a few pieces of furniture that held her toys. Within this room she could scatter her toys wherever she wanted and was close enough for Emily to watch.
A sense of cheerful activity pervaded the house even though it was sparsely furnished. Emily and Frank thought that for now, with a small child in their midst, it was better not to get caught up with maintaining furniture and all the display of glassware, knick-knacks and “what not” as Frank said that ended up pervading and sometimes taking over a well-lived in home. It was the people who lived in a house that made it a home, not the number of items owned. Better furniture would come in time, for now it was a case of making do.
Most weekdays Emily was now able to maintain a routine and fulfill her responsibilities as a homemaker. She looked forward each day to her walks with EmilyAnn in the carriage. When that was not possible, she still claimed that hour as theirs and spent time resting, reading or watching TV. When she resumed her round of chores Emily often found herself in what she described as a state of being “in tune” with the people and world around her. For example, she would think about going outside to check the clothes drying on the line even though she knew they might still be damp. Right away, the kitchen door of the next door neighbor’s house opened. Emily and the neighbor engaged in some conversation. The neighbor noted that Emily was tired sometimes and said she could pick up a few items at the A&P down the block. The offer of this kind assistance touched Emily greatly and increased her belief that something deeper was happening in her life.
This state of “being in tune” extended to getting a feeling that something she needed was available right in the neighborhood. Emily favored going to A&S Department Store in downtown Brooklyn to buy her stockings but one day she had this urge to go to Neckritz on 75th Street and 13th Avenue. Neckritz was a small, family owned store right on the corner that had just about anything and everything in clothing for the entire family. Emily never expected to find seamed stockings in her favorite shades of taupe and coffee but there they were, just a 10-minute walk away.
When Emily spoke about the benefits rest, exercise and time apart had for her, most members of her in-law’s family dismissed it as coincidence. But Emily’s father Sam would smile whenever small things like this happened and she shared the events with him. He’d make what seemed like an obscure remark along the lines of, “A little birdie must’ve told you about it!” Josie would tell Sam to stop the nonsense but Emily would say her father was right. Josie did not understand what this line of talking and smiling between father and daughter was all about.
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