Series Note
This posting is Part 5 of “The Lifestyle of one real 1950s housewife” based on memories and family stories my late Mom and Grandmothers shared with me when I was growing up.
Introduction
In this posting Uncle Sammy and I present many memories my Mother shared with me about her fashion interests before she became a mother. We then try to understand some of the contributing factors to her inability to get back-on-track with all matters of dressing and grooming during the postpartum phase she called “the baby blues”. This was a period of roughly 6 months after my birth during which she had highs and lows before settling into what she called the new reality of being a mother. She called it a new reality rather than saying she resumed her everyday life. Everything had changed in the subtlest of ways: although Mom looked the same there were changes in her way of looking at things that led to increased questioning and seeking new directions rather than resume reliance on established patterns of behavior that were not in harmony with her own needs.
Using news coverage from the time period late 1953 to mid-1954 we try to find clues that lead to an understanding of the reluctance Emily had towards resuming the expected mode of attire which was expected of a young wife and mother who wanted to be accepted by her community in good standing. By analyzing some of the clues and putting them into the context of the community where Emily lived, and where we grew up, we get a better understanding of why Emily no longer found some of the trappings of traditional femininity and attire as alluring and beautiful as she did in prior years.
Relationship Notes
Emily Leatrice was 22 years old in 1953 when she gave birth to her daughter, EmilyAnn. She was married 3 years to Frank Jesse Terry*. Emily Leatrice had a responsive support network consisting of her husband, mother, mother-in-law and sister-in-law which helped her get through the lows of her post-pregnancy period.
Josie Muro Serrapede was Emily’s mother. She was married to Sam Serrapede for 23 years when EmilyAnn was born. Josie was a very observant and practical woman. She had returned to the workforce full-time at this point in the family history and was raising Junior (a/k/a Sammy). She also had to cater to her husband Sam’s expectations of a beautiful, clean and orderly home plus home cooked meals every night. For Josie, the important part of fulfilling her role in the larger family was to keep harmony among the relatives. It was important to speak honestly but to do so with tact and sensitivity.
Blanche Flashenberg Terry* was Franks’s mother. She was born in 1905 to Orthodox Jewish immigrants from Galicia. Her mother Tillie Rosenbaum Flashenberg was a very ambitious woman who ran a boarding house for 10-15 years and kept a Kosher household. When Blanche married out to the son of Sicilian immigrants, her family disowned her. Blanche brought her Orthodox faith into her marriage although she raised her children in her husband’s religion. She had two refrigerators, one for dairy and the other for meat and two kitchens, one on the first floor and another in the basement. In all matters of dress, etiquette and decorum she was very proper. For Blanche a woman’s moral character was expressed by not just her dress but her speech, movements and treatment of other people. She believed that the more a woman covered up, the better her chances were to be taken seriously, to be respected and to capture a prospective husband’s imagination. Blanche was always preoccupied with maintaining a good reputation to such an extent that she remained courteous even to the neighbors who rejected her and her children because she retained her Jewish faith.
Family Story: The Sun on my face, the wind in my hair
Emily looked at the seamed nylons that had been tossed into the dresser drawer. This drawer contained stockings that were no longer a pair: the other stocking had been discarded after becoming too snagged or getting a run in a conspicuous place. Since Emily bought stockings in the same shades she preferred each season this reserve always came in handy when a new pair eventually had one of the stockings no longer useable. This was not the case on this Spring day, however. The stockings in the drawer were all in shades of flesh tone, light taupe or grey—all Winter colors. There was no match for the light sand colored seamed stocking that just had its’ mate discarded because of a run from the toe to the mid-calf. Emily thought that if she had put some clear nail polish on the run earlier this might have been avoided. What was she to do now?
It was the kind of Spring morning when there is a calling to come outdoors. The sky was clear and there was a breeze filling the clothes hung on the lines in the back of the row houses. The curtains in the upstairs rooms were billowing in the breeze, too, since Emily had opened the windows to give the house an airing. Her thoughts went back to the clothes she had laid out the night before on the chair by the bed: bra, girdle, full slip, skirt, blouse, cardigan, beret hat. On the dresser was a fancy hat pin she planned to wear with the beret. Yes, today was the day she had planned to get dressed-up for a walk to the mini-mansions of Dyker Heights with EmilyAnn in her baby carriage.
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